Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but this is slightly creepy.
I never understood why people care to keep their private conversation history in the first place. IMO private messages (as opposed to public posts, blogs, etc) are supposed to be temporary ("ephemeral") - one does not record every face-to-face conversation or phone call after all.
One reason that's understandable without relying sentimentality, is they're a record of what you were doing or thinking at a particular time, much like a private diary.
There's been a few times where I've gone back though stuff like chat history to better understand something that I didn't realize the significance of at the time.
I never was disciplined enough to keep a diary when I was younger, but I started using messenger when I was about 14. It’s pretty amazing to be able to go back and see my interactions, the way I communicated, the way I saw the world (am now 30). I feel lucky to be able to have that window into my past life.
I think this is interesting, and not necessarily unpopular. It seems different people just think about this issue differently. I do everything I can to preserve every single chat history that I can. And I would like to have every face-to-face conversation and phone call recorded and easily accessible for that matter. I have a sense that I am the sum of my experiences and I don't want to forget those experiences - it feels like I am somehow less than myself if I don't remember them.
But I've seen that episode of Black Mirror, too. So I wrestle with the desire to perfectly remember everything that I've ever experienced vs the mental and emotional health benefits that clearly come from being able to forget things.
I read your reply a while ago, but still can't wrap my head around "t feels like I am somehow less than myself if I don't remember them.". I forgot many things, and it's quite ok with me, so I'm trying to understand your view.
Are you trying to remember everything all of the time? Including all of the new memories?
Suppose you are able to record calls and face-to-face interactions. Are you going to spend hours of your life re-watching or fast-forwarding through mundane everyday things?
People used to write letters to each other and older folks usually have a drawer full of all of their old letters.
We have learned a lot of history by reading famous peoples' letters long after their deaths.
Unless you write your text messages deliberately composed, in multiple paragraphs, and it takes days to send and receive, the comparison is very flawed. More long-form digital communication, like email, is a bit closer to letters, though.
Which brings me back to my point that text chats are equivalent to a spoken conversation and should be treated as such, and not be kept forever. Especially not printed out as a gift. You wouldn't give someone close a video of them sleeping or leaving for work over last 3 years (even if you saw them do it), nor a map of their movements from a GPS tracker (even if they told you where they are going), because that does not respect their boundaries nor privacy.
Although after reading some responses, no doubt some people will think of those as "cherished memories".
Why? Privacy and permanency are orthogonal axes. You've never kept a cherished letter or re-read a thoughtful text message?
If the message was something I found interesting, important, or funny, I would usually copy or screenshot it. Or remember it. Although I don't proactively delete old messages, I never intentionally backed up or transferred message history between devices either.
As for privacy and permanency - if data stops existing, it is definitely private now :)
private messages are not face to face conversations nor phone calls. letters last a long time and would be a more accurate comparison
Because they're cherished memories for one.
Really depends on the mindset when creating the message. If I message on a platform that keeps history, then I write with that expectation, or at least possibility, in mind. Now, this begs the question - is this modification of behavior problematic, does it detract perhaps from the meaning of the communication itself? Maybe.
The barrier, to me, is broken the moment we use technology. I work with this shit, I know how the sausage is made. I know that the phone calls are as encrypted as HTTP, that everyone can always keep record without you knowing, that even if they promise that something will go away, it may be won't, especially because it's a juicier target now just that promise alone. As soon as something is electronic, then it's a record.
I can see both sides. I did actually correspond with people using written letters up until maybe 2004 or so, and in many of those cases, especially old girlfriends and letters from my little sisters when I first went to college, reading them years later was intensely nostalgic.
On the other hand, when I left the Army I moved into a much smaller place, put most of my stuff in storage, then three years later figured anything I hadn't touched or used for three years was something I didn't actually need, and let the facility have all of it. That seems to have included both all those old letters and all of my old photographs. I can't say I actually miss those things. People in here are saying they don't want to forget the past but the reality of forgetting is you don't know you forgot it so it has no perceivable effect once it happens.
To be honest, I'm nostalgic enough as is and don't think I need even more things to hold onto. I already don't watch new television or listen to new music. I'm mentally stuck in 1999 and not sure that's healthy.
However, this is just an opinion.
Thinking more carefully, I think my opinion goes more like this:
my data collected by others should be temporary, but I should be able to maintain my own data forever if I want.
I agree. But it's more to do with the part of me that cringes at messages I sent and exist forever. The person I was 10 years ago is so different. It feels so jarring reading old messages.
I don't assume those are private or ephemeral.
It tells a story and its the zeitgeist of our generation.
People haven't thought about too much how to preserve something like this.
I personally like the idea and i can imagine exporting this with all / few messages of my mother and having a memory of that time.