Whenever I see comments like this I feel bad for the commenter.
For all the opportunity and different companies to choose from in tech, to not enjoy your job after 30 years probably means you picked the wrong career path. It’s not healthy to have this much disdain and displeasure around your work.
It’s never too late to consider a career change.
I'd just like to comment on these points on a 30 year perspective...
Point 4 - incompetent people. They are great. When they fuck up, which they do often, you can save the day by simply being average. Just make sure people know that you saved it.
Point 5 - meetings are great if remote. You can sit there muted on a zoom call for hours tweaking with your bike or playing games on your other computer.
Point 6 - estimates are always wrong so don't put too much effort into it. What people value is how long you spend making up lies so spend some time on it!
Point 8 - Uncertainty. Let other people handle that and hang themselves with it. That's what software architects are for. Be there to clean up the mess afterwards or at least complain about it.
Point 9 - Eventually you do become able to disconnect from your job. One day the fucks just run out. Embrace that early on and save yourself a lot of stress.
Point 10 - The only soft skill is politics. Any sufficiently large organisation employs many politicians. The best way to deal with politicians is analyse the factions and stay neutral. No one can drag you to their side then.
There is a missing point though: objective one is getting paid. Anything else is secondary. If they stopped paying you how much of a shit would you give about all the other concerns? There you go now you understand. Nothing matters so don't get too wrapped up in it or upset about it.